I love my mom but somehow I’m still getting mixed messages from her. When I explain to her that I’m mentally a girl and have always been, how some Dutch scientists have done autopsies on transsexual girls and seen that these folks basically had female brain structures etc. then my mom does a lot of nodding, and certainly if she has questions, I have answers. So, you’d think she “gets it” and by implication, I didn’t “become a girl” when I underwent the various surgeries and legal changes. I’ve always been a girl, and the recent changes were just to bring the aesthetics and paperwork into synchronization with that. And yet she sometimes still makes reference to me having become a girl, which undermines the basic logic, and I’m getting kinda tired of revisiting that every time.
By now I’m assuming most of the folks who read this blog are clear on the premise that the old definition of gender, based on body shape ‘down there,’ has gone the way of the flat-earth mind-set. The logically-clean and scientifically-substantiated premises are that gender is based on brain structure, and the earth is basically spherical.
Sadly, one of my favorite motivational-poster websites is using the same premises as my mom does, and so they make references to “becoming a girl” when really the precise terminology would be “change your looks and style to match the brain structure of the girl that you are.” That issue aside, I do love their enthusiasm and their posters. Here is one of my favorites: