I belong to an online community dedicated to raising awareness about elective surgery. The place is normally the paradigm of benevolence and professionalism (although in my opinion, some of the official doctors’ advice doesn’t qualify for either or both of those two adjectives). Normally, the community managers are the keepers of the flame as to the positive spirit of the place. They are genuinely nice people.
Anyway, one of the community managers posted an article about Chelsea Charms, a lady who has some really huge implants of the “Polypropylene string” type. The wording of the article was … not very nice. By now I’ve become used to how other girls make mean comments about girls like Chelsea but some of less-than-nice comments about the article were from community managers themselves. This was oddly out of character. So, I took issue with that, and I wrote a general objection to their comments. Here is what I wrote, quoted below.
I’d like to make a suggestion, and that’s to presume the girl in the story might end up reading your comments, which she might well end up doing since she’s alive and well, lives in the US and probably has an interest in this subject, and is no doubt smart enough to use search engines to look up her own name.
If you think she might get her feelings hurt or that you’re coming across as insensitive, then … well, perhaps you are. Even if you have something really important to say and it’s all bad news, it’s still possible to gift-wrap things nicely. I’m not all that convinced that the comments below are all that rich in what they contribute, but they are certainly lacking in sensitivity. It’s almost as if the theme of the entire thing is “wow, and now look at THIS freak.” I really must object to this.
If I’m misunderstanding what you intended I apologize, but for me the dismay is a little personal because I have exchanged personal private messages with several of the people who’ve made comments on here, or I’ve read what you’ve had to say elsewhere on this site, and you in the past you have delighted me with how thoughtful, nice and sensitive you’ve been in general and towards my own personal struggles in particular.
That’s part of what’s so nice about this community — how positive the community managers are. So please don’t make an exception now, as to Chelsea.
If you watch her video then you’ll notice how, like you normally are, she’s a positive and nice person. She just chose to have huge boobs.
I have spent a lot of time reading about surgery and psychology, and I’m still no expert, but I really like how Carl Jung (a contemporary of Sigmund Freud, though they disagreed on many issues) approached such issues. His basic point is that, as humans, we tend to pathologize that … which we dislike, and often we dislike things due to having a less-than-informed intellectual basis for our opinions. So, to apply this to Chelsea, the undertone I read in some of the comments is that we’re questioning her rationale but the tone would almost suggest that we’re going further and questioning her rationality too. (I might be reading too much between the lines — I actually hope I am).
I’m fortunate to have people in my life who love me very much and wish me only the best and yet it’s sometimes impossibly hard for them to guess what would be best for me given all the complexities of my life. Chelsea deserves no less. She has her reasons, in the context of her own life, why she makes the decision, every day, to have such large breasts when aspirating them is an option and so would be removing or reducing them. I’m hardly in the position in which I can understand her values and her situation well enough for me to go tell her it’s a bad idea to have done what she did. And, even if I could, she’s at most harming herself, not others. So I’d have to first go focus on the hundreds of millions of people who *are* harming others, as being more worthy of my criticism.
Thereafter, I can focus on people who are harming themselves … cigarettes … alcohol … and so on. [And even this is arguable.] By the time I get to the point where Chelsea is at the head of the line of people who might deserve criticism from me, there will have been many, many people ahead of her.
On the positive side, Chelsea is showing how Polypropylene string implants can yield larger breast sizes without any of the capsular contraction, rippling, Anaplastic Large Cell Lymphoma (ALCL) and internal leakage risks that saline and silicone implants have.
Polypropylene string implants are, to use a colloquialism, the red-headed stepchild of the breast implant industry not least due to the popular criticism that’s been personally aimed at their inventor for unrelated reasons. I have been diligently reading about these implants and the amount of unsubstantiated popular misinformation that keeps being parroted (and in bad taste, no less) is saddening, and some of it has even found its way onto Wikipedia. I could by now dedicate an entire website to debunking these fallacies (and come to think of it, perhaps I shall).
Meanwhile, Chelsea is a happy example of how PPP string implants can safely help girls achieve very large breasts, far more safely and viably than they can with traditional implants. If anything, she’s a little pioneer, and a cheerful and positive one at that, in a world where probably most people are mean to her. I’d like this to be one community where we rise above that … please.